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Passionate About Life

1384201_10201607437404552_810844066_nToday’s daily prompt wants to know which causes evoke our passions.  This one is easy, I am passionate about life.  Why?  Because it is the way of love.

The way of love is sacrificial.

Jesus said, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”  Love is putting the best interests of another ahead of your own.  Love is laying down your desires for the life of your baby.

There is no love in abortion.

Think about all the reasons women choose abortion and for each reason ask yourself, where is the love?  Don’t include “the life of the mother”.  In a true medical emergency life and death decisions are made by doctors who have taken an oath to save whoever they can.  Think of all the elective reasons.  I was the director of a pregnancy help center for ten years.  I lead groups of women, and even some men, through post-abortion healing.  I have heard their stories, walked through their pain and I have found no love in abortion.  Selfish love for oneself, maybe, but no selfless love for another.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to heap guilt on those who have had abortions.  I have much compassion for the walking wounded.  I know that many of them were deceived into thinking it was the right path and then, once they were too far down it to turn back, heard the hater-of-women hiss, “Sucker.”

There is a gut-wrenching, God-level love in adoption.

Adoption seems so much harder but in the end it is so much healthier.  One of the groups I lead included a woman who had been pregnant three times.  The first two pregnancies ended in abortion.  The last one ended in the birth of twins.  Because she was still in college and had no means to support them, she made an adoption plan.  Years later, she came to our group with a broken heart.  Not over the babies she had placed for adoption – she was proud of herself for that – but for the ones that she gave no chance at all.

Our laws have made abortion legal, but our hearts know better.  Abortion is no longer a hot political issue, but there are still efforts to push the envelope of acceptance.  I recently saw a cute young actress on a late night talk show describing very nonchalantly that the character she plays in a soon-to-be-released movie had an abortion.  And it was a light, breezy, happy thing.

In real life it is a heavy, soul-crushing thing.

And that is why I am passionately pro-life.


5 thoughts on “Passionate About Life

  1. Thank you for sharing something so personal. I’m pro-choice, but would never want an abortion myself. I know of an acquaintance who had an abortion but I know nothing about the trauma it left, or whether the choice was a well-made one in hindsight. Does your point of view extend to cases of rape?


    • I have never walked in those heart-breaking shoes so I am treading lightly here. I do know that rape would require an even deeper, more gut-wrenching level of love.

      Rape is violent and intrusive on the most personal level and abortion is violent and intrusive on the most personal level. So it seems to me that abortion would just pile on more trauma.

      I’ve met an attorney who was conceived in rape. Rather than aborting her, her birth mom put her up for adoption. Her mom couldn’t handle the thought of a living, breathing daily reminder of the assault, but she couldn’t bear the thought of another victim, either. My attorney acquaintance is very grateful.

      Though I believe abortion does more harm than good in any non-life-threatening scenario, I am not about shaming anyone. My motto is this: Don’t shame the woman, expose the one who is out to destroy her. I plan to write more about that tomorrow.

      Thank you for sharing your views.


      • Thank you for sharing. Although I strongly believe it should always be the woman’s choice, I think it would help people to make an informed decision with more information on the psychological damage abortion itself causes. If they are well aware of the damage and still make that choice, it’s their call. What I fear is a statutory requirement for say, a rape victim to carry to term against their will, as seen in the recent case in Ireland. I would never want that choice to be taken away from me. I agree that abortion is violent and intrusive on a personal level, but state laws dictating a woman must carry to term against her will, especially in cases of rape, is also violent and intrusive on a personal level. Even if abortion were made illegal, women who have made the choice to do so would regardless cross borders to carry out the procedure. Your post didn’t mention the legal handling, but I’m guessing if it’s pro-life, it must also be pro-life by statutory means as well…? I think you write gracefully about the topic. I don’t sense any shaming and am grateful for your thoughts. I see where you’re coming from and have much respect that you worked in a pregnancy clinic. I too, would probably see things in a different light had I the same experience. Though as a woman not having been pregnant before it just would never feel right to me to deprive ‘choice’ from the equation.


        • Hi Pixie,
          With regard to statutes, I would concentrate on making it illegal to profit from abortion. If there was no money to be made, there would be a lot fewer abortions. Those that remained would be performed by compassionate volunteers. Carol Everett (formerly the director of Planned Parenthood clinics in Texas) tells in her book – Blood Money – how representatives from her clinics used to go into high schools and push birth control pills that were too low dose to be effective in an effort to garner more abortion clients. Some clinics performed “abortions” on women who weren’t even pregnant. I have a friend who suspects this happened to her. I am not for the government forcing itself upon people. I am for informed consent and as long as there are profits to be made, there will be no incentive by the abortion industry to truly inform.

          The problem with choice is that there is another living, amniotic-fluid breathing person involved. What a woman is choosing is the death of a child. Her child. Healing comes when a woman (or man – fathers need healing, too) finally comes to grips with that.

          Laws dictating that a woman carry to term are personal and intrusive with regard to her liberties, but they do not reach into her womb and tear apart a human being. Abortion is literally, physically violent.

          Bernard Nathanson, one of the founders of NARAL, performed thousands of abortions then had a change of heart with the advent of ultrasound. Once he was able to see what he was actually doing, he could do it no longer. I heard him speak once. He told how he turned to drugs and alcohol to numb the reality of what he was doing. He finally quit and devoted himself to telling the truth about abortion. You can read a synopsis here:(

          His story is why I am not comfortable with the death penalty. Not because I don’t think those who commit heinous crimes deserve it, but because it has to be very hard on those whose job it is to carry it out. Can you imagine? At least with convicted murderers there is guilt. With abortion there is only the taking of an innocent life.

          I hope this wasn’t too heavy.


          • Thanks for sharing, thereluctantbaptist. Appreciate the information but I unfortunately cannot agree with your viewpoint. The topic is heavy in itself and we stand on polar opposites. Among these opposites is viewing sentient life (a grown woman’s) as equal to a foetus’, which up to a certain point does not yet think or feel. I understand for you there is a religious element to the sanctity of life, I respect that, but also appreciate that secular thought may view this differently. Also whether it is scientifically supported that abortion harms a woman’s mental health any more than if she were forced to have a child she doesn’t want – the medical viewpoint appears to be it doesn’t. Appreciate there are malpractices among the abortion profession, but there are malpractices in medicine in general and in every industry, but that itself doesn’t justify statutorily prohibiting profiting from a certain profession. I imagine abortion doctors no more enjoy killing life than a slaughterer killing a calf, but both are professions borne out of necessity. Statistics show that countries or states which ban abortion have higher abortion rates and higher maternal mortality. I suspect making it unprofitable will render similar results – push women who need an abortion to places where it is profitable (and legal), because services are better, and those who cannot afford the travel will be harmed. I don’t think we will come to a consensus, and this is your post and blog, so I’ll leave it as agreeing to disagree with you.


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