“Christian manipulation at its finest,” my daughter said, as she walked into the kitchen.
“Let’s hear it.”
She proceeded to read a Facebook message from some random guy who wants to connect:
Free Dream Interpretation Line?
Needless to say, she denied the request.
“It isn’t the same kind of manipulation,” I said, “but it reminds me of a time, when I was your age, that I received a letter in the mail at work. It started, ‘Dear Julie, You are unattractive, no one likes you and you are a failure at work…’ The letter continued to insult me for several paragraphs before inviting me to a seminar on self-esteem.
What? You’re going to tear down my self-esteem and then invite me to pay you $250 to build it back up?
Unfortunately for the letter’s sender, I was really cute back then, had lots of friends, and I had just received a raise, so I couldn’t have been too much a failure at work…”
Manipulation of the Weeny Sort.
The hub was away fishing this morning so my daughter and I went out for breakfast. Over omelets and pancakes she told a familiar tale of manipulation of the weeny sort. One of her friends, who has been seriously dating the assistant minister of a hip downtown church, just got dumped. They had been dating for a very (4+ years) long time.
“He probably said something like, ‘The Lord told me it isn’t His will for me to continue in this relationship,’ ” she said, “because that’s what they always say.”
They being the “fine” Christian men who date, dump and then blame it on God.
“Four years of her life,” my daughter said, shaking her head, “and then trying to pass himself off as all spiritual.”
“If I were the young woman being dumped,” I said, “I’d want to know whether God mentioned anything to him about the relationship not being His will FOUR YEARS AGO.”
Because the fact is, he’s a jerk. He can pretend that the break-up is him being all godly and obedient, but where was his obedience 4 years ago?
If the relationship is not God’s will now, then the relationship was not His will then. So either he ignored God then, or God has nothing to do with it.
Chances are good that it was the hip young minister’s idea to date her – take her off the market for 4+ years with no intention of marrying her – and it was the hip young minister’s idea to dump her.
Because God doesn’t string people along.
“I want to smack him silly,” I said as I finished my orange juice, “because how is anyone supposed to argue with, ‘blah, blah, blah, blah, blah … and I must be obedient to God.'”
As if God has any part in breaking a young woman’s heart.